This is a rare moment in time when I just feel like writing. Writing about life. How I feel, what I'm thinking, etc. Right now I am so happy. I'm listening to Ed Sheeran on repeat and just thinking about my cute husband. We've had our ups and downs (as all couples do), but right now our relationship is better than it has ever been. I wake up so excited that I get to spend all day with him and just have him in my presence. I had a moment last week where I was just sitting on the couch watching Netflix and I just started thinking about all the times when I've been a naggy, OCD, boring wife.
Some examples being: getting mad when Andrew jumps on the bed right after I make it, getting mad when he doesn't clean the kitchen exactly how I would, choosing Netflix over a walk around the block with him on a nice day, getting mad when he wants to take the scenic route to where we are going... etc. etc. etc. DUMB THINGS. I decided right then to stop. Stop being that naggy, OCD, boring wife. Andrew is such a fun/adventurous person and I seriously never take advantage of that. In my head I'm thinking... what is wrong with me??????? Like who wouldn't want to take the scenic route (especially if you get to see something you've never seen before). Or who wouldn't want to go on a nice walk around the block (NETFLIX CAN WAIT). Why aren't you jumping on your bed after you make it?... no one is coming over that is going to judge you for having a few wrinkles on your bed spread. After I had that little moment I grabbed Andrew and said, "lets go on a nice walk around the block." His response being... "well this is different, you never want to go on a walk?" EXACTLY. I knew right then.... what the h-e-double hockey sticks have I been doing all this time. I was so frustrated with myself but at the same time I was so happy that it finally hit me. And you wanna know how nice that walk around the block was? SO nice. SO refreshing. SO amazing. SO perfect. Just what I needed. Just what WE needed. If this is sounding familiar to you at all..... tell yourself to just STOP. Spend all the time you can with the one you love. Do things with the person you love even if you don't like what it is they want to do. Andrew has been begging me to go to the Natural History Museum with him for as long as I can remember. I've always said noooooo lets do something else that sounds so dumb. Well guess what? Today we went to the Natural History Museum and it was so fun! I loved it (Andrew was like a little kid in a candy store the whole time... so cute). Andrew loves history, and all this time I have been such a butt about doing anything that has to do with history. WHY? Because I was being selfish and not showing interest in something that my husband enjoyed. So all I can say is stop it and slow down. Enjoy all the little moments that you can. Time goes by SO fast. Don't live your life wishing you could change the way you are.... just do it. Even if it kills you a little inside to see your husband jump on the bed RIGHT after you made it.... it's allllll good ;) Do new things even if you think you won't like them... cause it just might be your new favorite thing. Stop nagging. Stop being OCD about everything. Just stop it. Even in the short week that I've tried to 'stop it', I've noticed the biggest change in the relationship I have with my husband. I can see how much happier we are when we focus on each other and stop worrying about the little things. Try it. You definitely won't regret it.
Some examples being: getting mad when Andrew jumps on the bed right after I make it, getting mad when he doesn't clean the kitchen exactly how I would, choosing Netflix over a walk around the block with him on a nice day, getting mad when he wants to take the scenic route to where we are going... etc. etc. etc. DUMB THINGS. I decided right then to stop. Stop being that naggy, OCD, boring wife. Andrew is such a fun/adventurous person and I seriously never take advantage of that. In my head I'm thinking... what is wrong with me??????? Like who wouldn't want to take the scenic route (especially if you get to see something you've never seen before). Or who wouldn't want to go on a nice walk around the block (NETFLIX CAN WAIT). Why aren't you jumping on your bed after you make it?... no one is coming over that is going to judge you for having a few wrinkles on your bed spread. After I had that little moment I grabbed Andrew and said, "lets go on a nice walk around the block." His response being... "well this is different, you never want to go on a walk?" EXACTLY. I knew right then.... what the h-e-double hockey sticks have I been doing all this time. I was so frustrated with myself but at the same time I was so happy that it finally hit me. And you wanna know how nice that walk around the block was? SO nice. SO refreshing. SO amazing. SO perfect. Just what I needed. Just what WE needed. If this is sounding familiar to you at all..... tell yourself to just STOP. Spend all the time you can with the one you love. Do things with the person you love even if you don't like what it is they want to do. Andrew has been begging me to go to the Natural History Museum with him for as long as I can remember. I've always said noooooo lets do something else that sounds so dumb. Well guess what? Today we went to the Natural History Museum and it was so fun! I loved it (Andrew was like a little kid in a candy store the whole time... so cute). Andrew loves history, and all this time I have been such a butt about doing anything that has to do with history. WHY? Because I was being selfish and not showing interest in something that my husband enjoyed. So all I can say is stop it and slow down. Enjoy all the little moments that you can. Time goes by SO fast. Don't live your life wishing you could change the way you are.... just do it. Even if it kills you a little inside to see your husband jump on the bed RIGHT after you made it.... it's allllll good ;) Do new things even if you think you won't like them... cause it just might be your new favorite thing. Stop nagging. Stop being OCD about everything. Just stop it. Even in the short week that I've tried to 'stop it', I've noticed the biggest change in the relationship I have with my husband. I can see how much happier we are when we focus on each other and stop worrying about the little things. Try it. You definitely won't regret it.
P.S. I know this post is different than my usual, but I just felt like I needed to share this! It feels good to just write sometimes. Hope you all have an amazing weekend.
P.P.S. Photos by the amazing Kenzie Tibbits
xo, Maddy ♡
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